I GET IT.
All tuned-up and serviced and ready for the weekend ride North...
You live. You die. You happy. You sad. You laugh. You cry. You don't have a choice. All you've gotta do is understand one thing; this here world isn't the hereafter. Unlike in the hereafter where things are permanent, things around here don't stay around long enough for you to be happy, or sad, before you are happy again, only to be sad once again one fine day when you least expect things to mess up. That's the way it is and you should get it and stop complaining, or become irritable when things don't go the way you plan. It's easy if you get it but I'm sorry to have to tell you that it is hard if you don't get it. If there's a good thing in not getting it, you are not alone. Million of decent men and women like you in this world don't get it and they are a good source of income for medical centers in the city to make money because those who don't get it are prone to stuff like high blood pressure, stress and depression and all of those things that can get you (if you don't get it).
It's easy to understand. It's a simple concept. You win. You lose. And then you win again, only to lose again. People will try to say nice things to you when you're down and out like; be strong. Or don't-worry-about-it-too-much-everything-is-going-to-be-okay. And people will say nicer things to you when you are up and about; you're-the-best. Or hey-you're-one-lucky-star. Or something like that. If you don't get it, you'd take all this with a heart big as a balloon thinking, I am cool. But if you get it, deep down inside you say; Alhamdulillah. Or Innalillahi wa 'inna ilaihiroji-oon (check your Tajwid - the Roman version of these phrases are meant for basic pronunciation only).
That's because you understand that good things that happen to you is short term. And bad things that happen to you is only temporary. Nothing is permanent in this here world, mate! Good things may last anywhere from 2 seconds to 20 years or more. Same thing with bad things. They may go on and on for years until one fine day when you least expect things to change, good things take over and all those bad things that you gotta face for 20 years are just memories.
It's easy if you get it. And hard if you don't. Wish I can help you but really, you gotta understand this thing yourself.
All I can say is, don't be too happy if good things happen to you. And don't be too sad if bad things happen to you. Good things, or bad things - they don't stay around long. Like you. You live. You die. You marry. You divorce. You marry again. And divorce again. And then who knows what's gonna happen.
Get it?