tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post114061143062107927..comments2023-09-04T23:17:50.431+08:00Comments on Good To Have You Here, Mate.: Abang & SayangBergenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09766443566607849335noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-54429738140598074492011-06-23T17:57:18.703+08:002011-06-23T17:57:18.703+08:00When we first got married my husband asked me to c...When we first got married my husband asked me to call him abang That time I refused n said "oh,so kampong" has in malay dramas.Then I found out his mum n sisters called their husbands abang.I call him sayang or dee short for daddy.But I find my parents in law are so loving until their old age.Now that my husband is gone I cant help thinking I should have called him abang .When u call urmaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031242532276362439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140755650067226862006-02-24T12:34:00.000+08:002006-02-24T12:34:00.000+08:00Bergen - incestuous thoughts just by calling the g...Bergen - incestuous thoughts just by calling the guy abang? hmmm no way man. its more out of respect for his position as the boss/ketua keluarga, regardless of age differences.... takan nak panggil encik kot lol. and of course you get to spice it up with your fav endearments along the way :) neeways for each their own.Justiffahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810630806006687606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140749219536268992006-02-24T10:46:00.000+08:002006-02-24T10:46:00.000+08:00Sayuti: It's good that you point this out because ...Sayuti: It's good that you point this out because I have always been under the impression that I don't use big words in my entries. I can't use them because most of the time I don't know what they mean, and I don't want to look them up in the dictionary because I have the tendency to spend hours looking for one word after another.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous: You got nice things going for you, ma'am.Bergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09766443566607849335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140744682019951222006-02-24T09:31:00.000+08:002006-02-24T09:31:00.000+08:00Yup We call each other ayah and ibu especially whe...Yup We call each other ayah and ibu especially when the kids are around.I can't imagine calling my hubby by his name or using "i" "u" or "saya" "awak"..it sounds so formal..so we stick to "abang" ,"sayang" or " ayah and ibu"..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140697357329058372006-02-23T20:22:00.000+08:002006-02-23T20:22:00.000+08:00i keep a dictionary on my table. i have to open it...i keep a dictionary on my table. i have to open it everytime i read your blog. its a good learning experience. i'm trying to keep up with your updates, though.<BR/><BR/>regretted declining to the 'quality super reading and knowledge mapping application' course. training budget overutilized.Sayutihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05247987630493696086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140691133863480132006-02-23T18:38:00.000+08:002006-02-23T18:38:00.000+08:00Noni: Oh okay.AuntieYan: You must be Kajol.QOTH: Y...Noni: Oh okay.<BR/><BR/>AuntieYan: You must be Kajol.<BR/><BR/>QOTH: You do good, ma'am.<BR/><BR/>AuntyN: I do?Bergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09766443566607849335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140683800906326692006-02-23T16:36:00.000+08:002006-02-23T16:36:00.000+08:00Have never called my hubby "abang" before. Either ...Have never called my hubby "abang" before. Either by the name his family calls him or Ba as in Baba to his children.<BR/><BR/>T thought you have a kakak now?AuntyNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07986396949796258421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140679201011399162006-02-23T15:20:00.000+08:002006-02-23T15:20:00.000+08:00I don't know either. I can only call him Sayang a...I don't know either. I can only call him Sayang and by no other name ;)Queen Of The Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00488259833670494576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140678535473125262006-02-23T15:08:00.000+08:002006-02-23T15:08:00.000+08:00Bergen:..Even though he is A Hero Tamil....He look...Bergen:..Even though he is A Hero Tamil....He looks like Shah Rukh Khan!!!!!....:-)AuntieYanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03680299058498499676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140670826730001712006-02-23T13:00:00.000+08:002006-02-23T13:00:00.000+08:00Dr Roza: Like I told the guy, I don't know anythin...Dr Roza: Like I told the guy, I don't know anything about this thing. All I know is I've gotta think about that all-Amercian girl named Mary Lou, or Jenny or something.<BR/><BR/>It's a long journey to getting it published, ma'am. I got a feeling it won't see print at all.<BR/><BR/>Nekbat: I think it's Julie Ramie. She's got a unique voice like the rest of them from that generation who defined theBergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09766443566607849335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140666216792948852006-02-23T11:43:00.000+08:002006-02-23T11:43:00.000+08:00I like to read your stories: interesting and intri...I like to read your stories: interesting and intriguing.However like you i also do not no the right reason why a wife calls her husband abang.Nevertheless, i love to call my husband "abang" and he also calls me "sayang".But most of the times he will call me"ibu" and i call her "ayah" so that our children know that there are ibu, ayah, abang and adik in the family.<BR/><BR/>IbuAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140662841865984382006-02-23T10:47:00.000+08:002006-02-23T10:47:00.000+08:00I can't say I know how it feels not to be able to ...I can't say I know how it feels not to be able to call anyone "Mom", "Dad" etc.. I never will know. But u had yr family in Aunt, Grandma and Cousin and from the stories you have to tell us, it seemed like yr childhood was filled with love. And that's what counts. Also sir, it's not too late for you to find YOUR "sayang" or someone to call u "abang" (if that's what u like) and for someone to callanedrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330193151276358234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140659022275119962006-02-23T09:43:00.000+08:002006-02-23T09:43:00.000+08:00oppss and also now u have ur family of bloggers : ...oppss and also now u have ur family of bloggers : )<BR/><BR/>Aida.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140658187310577712006-02-23T09:29:00.001+08:002006-02-23T09:29:00.001+08:00Always wanted to go to Grand Canyon....Always wanted to go to Grand Canyon....LifeBloomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14244787618236116206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140658181751505412006-02-23T09:29:00.000+08:002006-02-23T09:29:00.000+08:00Hi Bergen,Finally a non-blogger can make a comment...Hi Bergen,<BR/><BR/>Finally a non-blogger can make a comment...<BR/><BR/>Actually I myself do not understand why a husband is addressed as "abang" however, u can use any word or name as a form of endearment, correct?<BR/><BR/>I'd just want to comment on the family bit. A family does not mean having a father and mother and brothers and sisters per se. Family can be with whomever you are happiest Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140656732871762072006-02-23T09:05:00.000+08:002006-02-23T09:05:00.000+08:00I only 'use' "Abang" for my dear Hero Tamil...for ...I only 'use' "Abang" for my dear Hero Tamil...for any other man, I 'use' Encik or Mr. or just their name.<BR/><BR/>p/s:..I'll turn'green' when suddenly, out of no where some sweet preety ladies call my Hero Tamil 'abang'....hey!!!...hes my Hero...why you call him like that????....<BR/><BR/>***** unfortunetly, my Hero Tamil never address me as "sayang"...He sayang me anyway!!!!!:-)<BR/>-----------AuntieYanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03680299058498499676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140622464082882762006-02-22T23:34:00.000+08:002006-02-22T23:34:00.000+08:00The kay-poh apek obviously was so confused. Incest...The kay-poh apek obviously was so confused. Incest and abang has no equation. <BR/><BR/>Ada hikmah di sebalik every set of circumstances. Yet - it's our attitude that matters... <BR/><BR/>Abang? - nope, not moi - tak terpanggil!t o r t shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04972963192329751990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140622218385689432006-02-22T23:30:00.000+08:002006-02-22T23:30:00.000+08:00Oh...I feel like I want to give you a big hug :) N...Oh...I feel like I want to give you a big hug :) <BR/><BR/>No, you are not alone anymore. At least you have us all here reading your stories.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07993972401351163702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140615391843997232006-02-22T21:36:00.000+08:002006-02-22T21:36:00.000+08:00I m not going to comment on the Abang issue but he...I m not going to comment on the Abang issue but here is something you d have to know about having a family , a mum and a dad and siblings as well as children and grandchildren:<BR/>If you are like me everytime a member of my family is hurting, I hurt too...so perhaps footloose and fancy free is not too badSuriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05787698015101147637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140615288065114722006-02-22T21:34:00.000+08:002006-02-22T21:34:00.000+08:00I haven't been visiting for a while and you are wr...I haven't been visiting for a while and you are writing a book already. Whoaa. Thanks to you now I can't get this song out of my head *Abang Sayang abang di mana-mana..hmm..hmm..hmm..hmm*Jill Yusoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15816571564559265848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140614260350061402006-02-22T21:17:00.000+08:002006-02-22T21:17:00.000+08:00p.s. is the book ready? :)p.s. is the book ready? :)dithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04969764026616714310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209594.post-1140613717080255672006-02-22T21:08:00.000+08:002006-02-22T21:08:00.000+08:00Bergen,Is this your way of raising the issue of in...Bergen,<BR/><BR/>Is this your way of raising the issue of incest amongst the malay? By conjuring up a conversation with a Chinaman on a bus in Grand Canyon? hehe<BR/><BR/>Incentious or not, calling one's husband abang is equivalent to darling. It's like the word abang has dual meanings. And no it doesnt lead to incest! Incest is brought about in many ways and definitely not by calling the husbanddithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04969764026616714310noreply@blogger.com